God-centred encouragement for those in the family of God is by no means optional. Looking for ‘gaps’, finding problems, seeking to push people into a corner, elevating oneself over others are the antithesis of Christian love and encouragement. That’s not to say that building people up to do a better job is not warranted,
we are to spur one another on. However, relationships that only point out the ‘inefficiencies’ seldom encourage the good and produce an unhealthy environment.
Barnabas is called the “son of encouragement for good reason”, he epitomised the very words. We live in a world where it is seemingly easier, if not necessary, to find fault and nit-pick. We bring refreshment to relationships when affirmation increases and negativity decreases, when constructive advice is balanced with
I am not suggesting that we look for a clinical A to Z approach but more an organic loving approach. I like the saying “How much rain is enough? Well, that depends on how dry it’s been, and what are you trying to grow – a watermelon or a tumbleweed? Are we / you people who present an offering of hope, love and encouragement? If your natural tendency is to demand more, without the offering of encouragement, there will be a time in the hearers life where discouragement will only ring true.
Proverbs 12:18 reflects a pertinent truth. “There is one whose rash words are like a swords thrust, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
Affirmation is a sweet offering. This principle is true for marriages, families, schools, work and even our attitude in worship. God desires the praise and adoration of His people. Father help me understand affirmation helps build up the saints, brings refreshment and rest to their souls. May I always seek to be a blessing and a vehicle of your grace.